fter a divorce, many moms are left battered, tattered and abused, uneducated and unprepared for a life on their own and or unschooled in the ways of working woman. Additionally, if they are the only or primary custodial parent, they forever remain conflicted between their children's needs and the need to earn a living. These are not the mom's I am talking about.
There are those mom's who are either conniving or remain perpetual victims and loose sight of the damage they do to their men. Not all women are victims of “deadbeat dads.” There are many who sue their ex's only to fund their own coffers, all the while claiming the money is for the children. These women financially bleed their ex's to death and keep on walking, often to the next male money machine they can get their hands on.
There are also mom's who, even in this age where the glass ceiling has cracked, continue to marry up the financial ladder and in a divorce claim rights to everything they can lay their hands on. Divorce in these cases becomes a way of life, a way to become financially secure on the coat tales of the guy on the white horse.
Then there are the mom's who walk away from their families forgetting about their kids and leaving their men with all the cares, concerns and financial worries that historically have been associated with women. These walk away wives forget about commitment and responsibility and custodial connection, often only remembering their offspring at times of personal convenience.
As the courts continue to consider child custody in a new light where fathers' voices are heard and custody is not always automatically given to the mom, all parents need to look at their personal responsibility around parenting.
Moms are just as capable and culpable as dads by becoming mercenary and either going after their ex's money or their joint money in unreasonable ways. They are just as capable as men of not paying agreed upon child support or expenses agreed to in a divorce. When the battle over money becomes a quest ion of who wins, the children always lose.