One will often put off going to a counselor because his or her spouse will not. Don't wait for your spouse to participate. Individual counseling can be extremely helpful and satisfying. Often parents and children attend counseling together to lessen the effects a divorce or custody dispute has on the children, and to help the family put their emotions back together.
When choosing a counselor, be picky. Counselors have different styles or approaches. Search until you feel comfortable. A counselor may provide a first session at no cost or at a reduced rate to see "if it's a match." Ask about cost in your first meeting. Check your health insurance policy to see if your plan covers any part of the cost.
Reassurance from friends and family members or legal advice from your lawyer may help at this time, but a counselor is trained to address your emotional ups and downs. Make an appointment with a counselor. It will help you and make your attorney's job easier.