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it seems like he will get his bonus on his first anniversary according to finance. but they cannot tel me how much will it be..how do i know how much is it going to be. n how does that affect child support.

his bonus will be nontaxable n will de deposited into a bank account.n the problem is he dont have to give statements on the bank account.

If he hasn't recieved the bonus it won't affect child support. You should talk to a lawyer. If it's not taxable it won't appear on his 2009 return either.

i droped the lawyer i had as she just did nt do anything for me and was just making me pay. im out of money too as i have child expenses to take care of..so have just no money for a lawyer at this time..

the sgli that is for spouse, is ther possibility for the courts to put that policy for e beneficiary of e child.

but if he gets that bonus before final orders. then is it a part of anything for the child or me

If you are claiming that due to your separation any debt he incurs from this point forward is not marital debt, then you can't claim his assests as marital property either. You'll have to make up your mind. As far as it counting as income towards child support unless you find a way to prove he got it, you're going to be out of luck.

im actually claiming non is marital debt as he incured all for himself n has never contributed for the child n me. i think i will be able to prove that is all nt marital debt. n even if the judge say its a marital debt then the cost of living i incured shld be counted as marital debt too n he shld be liable just as much n the debts i have due to cost of living overseas is much much more than his debts.

n i was thinking even if his bonus is nt marital asset then it shld be a income for child suport. n the only way to prove he has such a income is from the bank statements if he has got any of that bonus upfront or else coz the anniversary is either in nov or dec this yr, n the imputation for child suport is still being taken into account on what he makes, i think it might make a diff if he gets his bonus anytime now..n if its a big amount then im sure it will play a part in child suporrt i think

i'm not dissagreeing that it will count as income towards figuring child support, what i was explaining is that if his bonus is non-taxable, unless you can somehow get something to prove how much the bonus is, it will NOT show up on a tax return, and if he's required to give an LES, he'll just give one without the bonus on there... if you want it to go towards his income, you must have proof it was paid to him. make sense?

like another person said, if you nickle and dime the debt whether he spent it on you and the child or not you'll go crazy. if he's sending you money each month, he can say that he was using the credit cards to get by.

i got really confused when you were talking about the cost of living overseas and what not, i thought you lived in colorado... i'm not sure what point you were trying to make, sorry.

that makes sense..but if i bring it up that he reenlisted then im sure there was a paperwork for e reenlistemnt n that would have the bonus he has recd n when he will receive if he had nt recd. if that counts towards child support then the court can ask for the paperwork if i bring it up to courts right..

im nt trying to nickle n dime the debt..the thing is me n child have only stayed with him for 2 mths in this marriage, n the rest of times we were overseas residing as we were pending on our immigration paperwork. im nt in colorado but its just for the divorce. its way to ex for me to litigate from overseas n if the courts have jurisdictn here then i dont wan to have a problem in brining the child here later.

my husband keeps threating me that if i pursue things he will ask for 50% of time w child.
the point is that he has never been a part of child life.nevr called the child, nevr wished e child on occasions never gave a gift to child on any occassions, nevre ask abt e wellbeing of child. n when we got our immigration status last yr, we came to stay w him but he moved to barracks n refused to put me on lease, n thus i got eviction notice to vacate in 3 days w my infant child. i did nt know anyone here where i cld have moved in w them temporary n thus had to stay in motel till my parents came from overseas to get me n child back to home country. as a metter of fact, they incured more costs than my husband n they are nt liable for those costs as im married, n yet they helped me or else me n child would have been on e streets..he basically had abandon us..im here for 2 mths now, nt even once he called to speak to child or even asked to see e child.

if we did nt return to states within a yr, the child resident status gets revoked here, n my husband knowing it, did nt even bother to talk abt it. n now he wants to have 50% w child as he dont wan to pay me.

if his credit card bills were made for him and someone else..why shld i be liable for it. he lives in luxury n me n child have to think abt every cent we spent.i know he earns n can spent what he earns, but then it makes no sense for me to be liable on that.

n just coz he refused to put me on lease n broke the lease, im sure he had to pay penalty, n wants me to be part of it. him refusing to put me on lease n getng me a eviction notice is enough to show he incured additional cost which he could have avoided if he had me on lease. n my parents cld have avoided the expenses of getng me n child back overseas.

i have never been against him having contact w child.infact i always wanted him to speak to child so that they hav a bonding depsite e distance, but he just did nt wan to have anything to do w child.

im all out to get the full rights for my child and am nt going to compromise on that as he just deserves no sympaty from me. its fine if i get nothing from him, im really nt interested, but for my child, im nt going to let him just have a child n then get away scot free from responsibilities.. i can give my child whatevr i am capable of, but there is no way i am going to give up n say its ok for his dad to walk away. we brought this child to the world n we cant walk away from resposibilities as n when we like to as it concerns a life here.

another q is..am i legally separated in colorado..we are nt staying togetehr but have no paperwork on being separated

May I ask....how old is the child...I thought at one point you said you have an infant. How can he develop a relationship with this child if you are overseas and he is supposed to bond via phone? It sound on my side like you took the child and left and now want him to pay.

Let me know if I have this all wrong...I tried to look back thru your posts but couldnt figure it out.

P.S. It would help immensely if you do not abbreviate words but type complete words!