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I have never heard of anybody having trouble "paying" their child support, but this is the problem we are having. The ex had a problem with her bank account and had to close it, and that was our way of sending her the cs, since we live out of state. It's been three months since she's closed this account and has yet to open a new one. The first month and most recent month I happen to be in town and had her sign for cash. This time was a pain in my but considering I was home for 4 days and couldn't get in touch with her until the third day I was there. The second time I sent a check, which I didn't want to do, because (1) she can't cash it because it's not a local bank there and she has no account, so I had to make it out to her dad. (2) it's just not safe sending a check.

I called the courts, about setting it up through them and they said she would have to sign up for that. But if she hasn't opened an account, she wont sign up for that. I'm at a lost. This is my husband's child support and I am making sure it gets paid while he is deployed and I don't want him to get in trouble because I have no way to get the money to her. I refuse to send western union unless it's coming out of her money.

Not a problem. Mom doesn't need a bank account to negotiate a check. Just send the check to her in the mail, being careful to make a copy of each check. It's not your job to do anything differently from that. If Mom wants the money, she'll figure out a way to deal with it.

And if this gets to be too much of a hassle, there's no reason DAD can't ask the court to set up an Income Withholding Order. Advantage: finesses the whining from Mom about the checks and does away with your needing to write them. Disadvantage: may require paying a lawyer to deal with the court and file the right forms.