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Nnn3 - What Astro is trying to tactfully point out, without an accusing finger, is that it is EXTREMELY rare for the courts to remove custody from a biological mother of - (I believe you said you were the custodial parent for 10 years?) .. and hand the custody over to the father.

This kind of change usually only happens with some extreme circumstances, such as when a mother is an addict, an abuser or has severe hostility issues towards the father that is psychologically impacting the child(ren). (I thought it was most polite that Astro went with the least bad of the three for his example..)

Now, you've come on to discuss "move-away" options, which Astro has pointed out are separate issues. Move-away discussions on this site are typically for the custodial parent moving away. Any reader with even just a little intuition has probably deduced that you might even be considering just moving away with the children - something I think I would be considering if I felt that I had been "wronged" by the courts.

Astro's point is that, while its nice you've come to a free website to listen to a bunch of amatuers voice our opinions - that elements of your case, particularly the mediator mismanagement, are more complex and that you need to rely on the advice of paid attorneys - and maybe even get a second opinion, instead of using the internet for incomplete input on your case based on the limited information we have.

Meaning - ya get what ya pay for. The internet is a nice place for a little free research and debate/discussion, but paid professional advice is by far the better way to go.