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I laughed out loud at the 'Internet Predator'. Sounds like your eX has that same stupid gene that my guy's stbx does.

I agree that any kind of porn addiction, whether internet or otherwise, is a really bad thing. The occasionally trolling on free sites isn't a big deal. Especially if it's 'normal' type (not hard core, painful/humiliating, or with inappropriate partners), then no biggie.

At the time my guy was watching it, they hadn't had sex in well over a year anyway, so it's not like that affected anything. My X's friend had about 150 porn videos. That would be way excessive.

My X likes to blame everything on me, but since I had no problem moving on and I ended up in a relationship that is so darn smooth and easy that I keep counting my blessings every day -- I tend to agree with what you're saying about the guilty party holding on to things.

The other night, my guy finally got fed up with his stupid stbx. He actually told her what was on his mind. He's never done that before. He usually just lets her say whatever and he just sort of takes it, but he's been getting better and better over time and the other night he stopped taking her garbage anymore. All the current problems with the kids' schooling is her doing and he told her so. I was so proud. sniff sniff.

I totally agree with you.

Honestly his cheating on me is water under the bridge.

But I believe its insecurity on both the cheater and the OW. With my X one woman cannot boost his ego its impossible. With the OW in general they don't know what the man is all about until they are living with them, then they see the bad habits, the anger issues, real life as it is. During the affair everything is dreamy to both the Man and the OW, they both boost it it up of how great it will be, wearing rose colored glasses. Reality sets in and they both have to see upset kids, seeing their husbands pay check gone, getting mad because their life isn't the same as our life together was, facing other people that knows that she was the ow and those that don't bad mouth me is a shocker.

Then you would think the competition is over, its not. The OW has to convince everyone especially the X that everything is good, once the X (me) doesn't care anymore they get angry.

What she doesn't know is that he is a totally different person when she is not around, I have seen him flirt with others while we were out together.

I may have mentioned before, my EX was already cheating on his mistress while they are running around town holding hands like a happy couple.

I wish I was a fly on the wall to see how she felt whenever she finds out he is cheating. I guess with him it will never stop. He flat out told me she makes him happy and I did not.

When I found out he was sleeping with others on the side even though he could finally be with her out in the open- I realized that getting divorced was a blessing for me. If being in love and being happy and finally getting what you want isn't enough to keep your pants on, then there is no help for you.

Now she can take my place and be his wife while he secures another mistress. That's just what she deserves.

I totally agree!!!!
The best thing he did was leave me, though at the time I didn't think that but a while after I did and I do now. He has never told me that he is happy with his wife, his wife has told me that i just didn't make him happy, I was like dear if I was in your position I would be justifying things too. But in the end it doesn't matter, she got the boobie prize, a cheater and a liar, and i got my FREEDOM back.

I've noticed this with my ex & SW as well. It's amazing the things she makes up about me & posts all over the place to cover up the fact that they are having problems & to blame it on someone other than themselves. I try to just shrug it off as insecurity & I guess she may have a reason to feel insecure. What else can you really do?