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I just got off the phone with my last attorney in Birmingham Alabama (Shelby County), Julie Kimbrough. Do you know her? I explained to her that I was no longer living in Birmingham, Alabama, but had relocated to New Orleans, La. I let her know that I have recently had problems with my ex on the subject of my son visiting my girlfriend in Charlotte, NC. She said that she would NOT allow me to take my son to Charlotte, NC if I would be staying at my girlfriends house. The clause in my divorce decree states "Neither parent shall have a member of the opposite sex (unmarried and unrelated) overnight while the child is in their physical custody."

I asked her if this pertains to any household and she said yes whether he's at my apartment in New Orleans or my girlfriends house in North Carolina. Basically, it doesn't matter if she i'm dating her exclusively, or if she is my fiance'. Sadly, I can only negate this clause if I marry my girlfriend. It is very lucky that i have family in Charlotte I can stay with. She told me that she cannot legally suspend my visitation without taking me back to court and she must prove that I have had my son at a person of the oppisite sex for a sleep over. Does anyone have any advice?

My advice would be to visit your girlfriend without your son. How often do you have visitation?

How long have you been divorced? And how old is your son. Those rules in your agreement are for your son...it is very confusing for a child to be forced to acclimate into their parent's adult relationships. Take your time.

Your child needs YOUR attention now--not to have to share your affections with the girlfriend.