As many of you may have read in my previous rants, my 18 y/o daughter moved from my residence on Labor Day. She moved in with her mom, got into $400 a month worth of car/insurance payments, quickly accrued $400+ in bad check charges, and failed out of school within 30 days, re-enrolling in two easy classes to keep her full-time status.
Mom subsequently left her husband of less than 3 years. Daughter, daughter's love interest and mom got a place of their own. Turns out, the reason for all of this was because daughters love interest needed a place to live. So daughter and love interest are cohabitating, living in the same place, sleeping in the same bed, as roomies with mom.
Mom's slick and has a history of conning people, including the courts, and claims to be covering all expenses, but doesn't make a bunch of money. Suspicion is that without daughter and love interest paying for food or utilities, mom couldn't afford to live there and run out before Christmas to buy a brand new $40,000 SUV. Prior to her departure from the latest marriage, she did nothing but complain about being broke. She often canceled on the kids because she didn't have enough money for gas. So suspicion about receiving cash or other monetary help from daughter and love interest is high. If she can't afford anything while married, and even complained a lot after leaving him, working a part time job may help pay the current bills, but the brand-spankin-new Toyota Highlander would significantly eat into a part time job's wages, putting her right back where she was.
In addition, daughter has sent messages to me stating that she's self supporting and demanded to claim herself on her taxes.
Daughter was asked on no less than three occasions for copies of her grades, the last time was on Christmas Day, 2008. She refused to provide them. My research deems this as reason to terminate any right for child support.
The questions are....
1) How does her refusal to provide grades and schedules affect her eligibility for paid college expenses?
2) Since daughter is cohabitating with love interest, and they share a place with mom, how does this affect child support eligibility, if she had provided schedules and grades?
I've been to counselors and heard the term "path of least resistence" more times than I care to recollect. I've been told that they migrate to her because the expectations are minimal or nil and they don't need to be as responsible as I would demand. I expect(ed) a part-time, weekend-only job, payment of gas and insurance, and hard-charging to make decent grades. I didn't demand a 4.0 GPA, but a 3.0 would be nice. If the children did wrong, I grounded for discipline. Grounding came in several fashions... Grounded from the computer, or video games, or the cell phone, or the car. In the end, the daughter wasn't being honest about taking care of her responsibilities.... She claimed to be going to the college to get things done, spending several days there, and never even getting enrolled until the last minute. Thus, I grounded her from use of the car I bought, except for school and work. For that I've been deemed a control freak. However, since she flunked out of school and incurred $400+ in bad check charges within 4 weeks of leaving, I think my methods, while extreme to some, may have been keeping things on an even keel.
Edited by takncarobiznes (02/27/09 01:42 PM)
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