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I live in Oklahoma City. I have sole custody of
the children and the non custodial parent has visitation. The Children are
13 and 15 years of age. My Children for whatever reason sometimes do not
want to visit their mother on scheduled times and then sometimes they do
want to. I do not force them to do such but i do encourage that if there is
a problem that they need to talk to her. I have also told them that they
need to see their mother, but like I said I don't force them. If they don't
want to then that is that. Sometimes their mother gets rather angry and says
that she is going to get them anyway and I just say 'whatever you want to do
but I am not forcing the issue with the kids'. Anyway, I need to know if
Oklahoma law supports this approach since they are over the age of 12 or do I have to make them go with their mother?

I think you'd get a better answer from an attorney on whether or not the law supports it.

You should check with an attorney, but I think what you'll find is that if it gets in front of a judge, you'll want to be able to show that you did everything you could short of physically dragging the kids kicking and screaming. That is, if it's your responsibility to drive the kids somewhere to meet Mom, and they say they aren't interested, you get them in the car and drive them anyway. If, at that point, the kids simply refuse to get in Mom's car, you're probably on a little bit better ground.

"Anyway, I need to know if
Oklahoma law supports this approach since they are over the age of 12 or do I have to make them go with their mother? "

My advice: Unless she is seriously abusive or neglectful, let the kids go to their mother even if they don't want to.

1) She won't have a reason/ground to give you trouble. If the kids won't come in the car, she must recognize that it's them and not you pushing the idea.

2) There is so much she can tolerate when the kids are with her but acted angry and cold. What good does it make to be with them like that? She told you so to spite you and to avoid losing face as a "bad" mother. But once she got them in that condition, she will be sick and tire of it. If the kids change their behavior once they are there, then you won't have to worry about. She is still their mother.