Okay, here's my two cents. No children yet but plenty of nieces and nephews and my sister is now going through something similiar as you TNmom22. She too told the ex he didn't have to pay "much" in the beginning because she was the bread winner and could do for her children. four months ago one of my nieces had a health crisis that has thrown everything in the rear.

Hindsight 20/20 she wishes she wasn't so easy going on the ex cause now she is in need of extra funds. She has medical coverage, but it is not covering everything. Plus the kids have daily needs. In the end as much as the ex and her has gotten along, he to remarried and is paying for his "new children's home and education, and they two have new cars and a house.

My sister like you does not begrudge her ex improving his life, but she feels she should not have to fight him to do what is right regarding his children with her.

Her resolve, a soon to be court date to get everything back on track. Yes he will be in the rears, but he let it slip in front of his children that he had money in savings. Well I say his savings needs to go to his child in need.

Good luck