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Ok...this is a real messed up situation but I am going to try to sum it up as quick as possible...

A year and a half ago my daughter (4 years old at the time) told me that she had been molested by a cousin while visiting my exhusbands dad and step mom. The boy was 13 at the time that he molested my her. (Just for the record....there was more than just touching going on)
I had my daughter speak to several social workers at DHS and filed charges against the boy. The judge ordered him to have a 4 pm curfew for a year and also ordered him to follow up with counseling....that was it. It was also agreed upon in the judge's presence by myself, my exhusband & his wife, and the parents of the boy that there would not be any contact between our children...whatsoever.

Fast forward to now. A month ago my daughter comes home from her dad's am tells me that she got to see the boy for a while. I sent her dad a letter reminding him of the agreement that we made. I explained in my letter that I would appreciate it if he could respect my wishes regarding this matter and reminded him what that boy did to our daughter.

This past weekend she came home from her dad's house and informs me that her daddy took her with him to pick up the boy and that he was there with her from the time that they had breakfast to after supper (in other words, all day). I asked her how that made her feel and she said she was a little uncomfortable. She even told me that she does not always feel safe around him but that she is afraid to tell her dad how she feels.
Her dad and I constantly argue about everything under the sun..so it makes it very hard to talk when there is something that is serious that needs to be discussed.
I called Department of Human Services and they told me there is nothing that they can fo until the boy touches my daughter again.
I contacted an atorney and he told ne that it is very likely that if i took her father to court to have his visiation modified (either suspended or supervised) that they would probablt do nothing more than require that her father supervise all visits with the step cousin.

I do not feel that it is right for my daughter to have to relive those feelings every other weekend when she goes to visit her dad. Not to mention, we also have another daughter that is 4 years old.

I need to know what action I can take to protect my children.

I thought about withholding his visitation....but then I will be in court for contempt charges...

Any advice??

I would speak to another attorney, and I would make it clear that this boy-step-cousin is nowhere near an immediate relative of your children. Your ex is not under a court obligation to visit with this boy, instead he remains under obligation to keep them distanced from each other.

Now, because this is not a family issue, you need to discuss with the attorney the possibility and option of filing in juvenile court for an order of protection against this boy and his parents keeping them away from both your daughters. Is the agreement that was agreed upon in the judge's presence in any type of documentation such as court transcriptions? Can you obtain a copy of such a transcription to present to juvenile/criminal court? That should help your case tremendously.

I called the youth court judge that heard the case originally. He said that there is nothing that he can do to help me. He said as far as he can see that I have 2 options:

1. Call DHS and file a complaint. I already tried this and as I said above they said they cannot help me until the boy molests my daughter again. I told the judge that and his reply was "That's crap".

2. Get my own attorney and have my Ex's visitaion modified....wether it be restricted to supervised vistis only or no visitation, etc.


My girls adore their dad and I don't want to deprive them of their time with him. However it is my job to make sure that they are safe and I just cannot see me allowing this to go on any further.

I think I would stay on DHS about it AND get my own attorney and see what the attorney advises.