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Just looking to see what others may think about my situation. I had recently seperated myself from my wife two years ago with hopes that we could work things out at a later date when I finished school and accommadated better assetts. Well, just recently I found out that she wanted a divorce because she was tired of things and did not feel the need to work it out because it was not going to work. However, I did not know that there was someone else that had been living at her place for a couple of weeks. Well, she claims that nothing happened after she just told me that it just happened and she was sorry. Is this adultery or what. I know better than nothing happening. Why would he already be moving in. Yes, we are still legally married. I did not seek seperation through the court system, it was all verbal to which she did not agree with for quite some time. There was way too much fighting going on in front of my daughter and someone had to put a stop to it. Was I wrong for doing this because know she is screaming that I had abanded her, even though I was still there clode and came over and stayed when my daughter asked me to. I do not know if she in the right or am I really in the wrong for doing what I did. I had all the intensions of making us a better family, until she did what she did. Know She is waiting for me to sign the divorce papers so she can live happily ever after with her new man and nine month old child. She did not want to divorce until he came along. I am lost and do not have a clue what I should do about it. Please halp me see what went wrong.

To whom does the 9 month old child belong?

That's a very good question, Beaver. :)

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[i]Was I wrong for doing this because know she is screaming that I had abanded her, even though I was still there clode and came over and stayed when my daughter asked me to.[/i]

A 9 month old daughter "asked you" to come over, or are there other children?

The nine month old child belongs to her new boyfriend that she moved in about a month before we got a divorce.

No, my daughter is 11 years old. Sorry for the confusion. So when she asked me to come and visit, I came over and visited. I was always 10 miles away and when my ex-wife needed me for something, I was there for her for what ever reason it might have been.

The separation wasn't legal, so she can and probably did file divorce using constructive abandonment as grounds. Yes, she did what she did, and met someone after the fact and decided to move on with her life after all... but you did move out. At this point it's her word against yours. You could say for instance (if you did) that you paid her child support. She can state she never received a dime from you. And on and on.

Personally, I would sign and let her go. Why try to hold on to a woman who obviously wants someone else including that someone else's child (be it theirs together or his alone)?

I would make sure the terms of the possession for the 11-year-old were favorable before I signed anything.

Hello,

Yea, that is exactly how I saw things. I did sign and let her go, so now we can both move on. I really do not think she would try to betray me like that, but I was wrong before. It could have been much worse.

Thanks,
Shawn11

Yes, I made sure of that. I have %50 legal custody and let her have her physical custody. My daughter gets to go where ever she wants to go, when she wants to go, so she comes over a lot and I do not have to worry much.

Thanks,
Shawn