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I am sorry for all of the different questions I keep asking but I am about to explode.

Topic SUMMER VISITATION

My X gave me this ridiculous schedule for his visitation this summer that has over 25 drop offs....He is a correctional officer.

Here's an example
My daughter is with me Monday Tuesday, drive 35 minutes to drop off Tuesday Night, she is with her dad for Wednesday and Thursday, then we all drive 35 minutes to exchange AGAIN on Thursday night, then she is with me Friday, Saturday, Sunday, then dropping off again Sunday night, picking up Tuesday night, dropping off Thursday night.....you get the picture. It adds up to the 6 weeks...but my god it is insane, and not in my daughter's best interest, she is 5.

It is so ridiculous. I told him I wouldn't accept that. He needs to be a man and find childcare or family to watch her for those 2 days in between so she can have a stable, relaxing summer instead of being in the car all the time...just so he doesn't have to find care for her...and heaven forbid spend money. He lives in Kokomo and I Indianapolis.

So, now he says I'll have to fight him in court over it. He's bullying, and being awful. Maybe it is just me...but being a school teacher who has the whole summer off.....I know how many people out the DO NOT have 6 weeks of vacation time at their disposal...so there has to be arrangements made, right???? Accommodating his weird work schedule and having my daughter tired and crabby and never staying in one place for more than 3 days seems ludicrous.

PLEASE HELP..anything, case law, commentary, ANY RESOURCE! Opinions please.

Oh-- I made a new schedule for him, which is one week with me, one with him....rejected that one....

If he does the driving, I don't see anything bad about it. The kid is only 5 and sees both as often. It's summer and take time to enjoy the kid instead of going to court. Your mistake was not to spell out clearly in the original order.

The whole thing is retarded, he isn't doing all the driving, it is both us traveling 35- 40 minutes to a drop off location.....every 2 days or so....AND we had a similar schedule last year when we were trying it..and my daughter would get mad when I would tell her we are going to your dads........because she was sick of traveling and being in all these different places....I am sure she did the same thing with him when he had to meet me again.......

It became a negative.

Best guess is that there's case law on this. Try calling an attorney, describing the situation, and asking if it's actionable.

I know there is case law on in VA. I read an opinion involving a child and summer visitation that would involve a lot of shuffling around. The Judge ruled in favor of the lesser amount of travel for the child.

I'd definitely contact an attorney if you can.

Is there a reason why you can't do a week on/week off? I mean--everyone has to work--is there no daycare or babysitter for dd in Kokomo? I agree this is a rough schedule for EVERYONE. Is this court ordered or just what HE wants? What specifically does your order call for?

If it is non-specific and you cannot reach an agreement--see if your ex will see a mediator with you to work out the details. If he rejects that--its back to court.

Really........that would be amazing to find....any suggestions..

To find it myself....I am pro se now due to a 14,000 lawyer bill

It has been an awful ride...

Start by reading your order carefully. What, exactly, does it have regarding his time during the summer? Feel free to type all of it in (making sure to replace proper names with placeholders - we don't need to know who you are or who he is) so we can creatively interpret it.

My decree says that it approves our mediation agreement..which is literally NCP will have visitation per Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines.

He is now 3 CS payments behind.....I am getting so upset. SHould I file for modification of visitation...ALONG with ANOTHER contempt for non payment of child support???

I want to be the pro active one here....I am sick of sitting around waiting to receive court papers in the mail.

For starters you need to remember that CS and Visitation are two separate issues legally. Don't just decide not to send child because of no CS. Does this state factor in parenting time to the cs calculations? If so, and ex isn't taking as much visitation then I would certainly look for a cs mod.