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ok, why do women think that they "have the right" to take HALF.....for instance....

he worked making good money, 18 hrs a day, he did his own laundry, he made supper, he helped 6 yr old with home work, he bathed the child at night, read bedtime stories, cleaned the kitchen.....what the wifey poo did was sleep all day, talk on the internet "to her friends" and run him further in debt......now, HE "has to prove" he ownes everything/anything..by receipts...what the heck...she didnt work? how does she own any thing?

also mind you do to her suggestion it is an...open marriage. her haveing way more "friends than he" , as he worked, and did the things above...after meeting someone, and was on the first date, she(the wife) moved her boyfriend in...now husband is paying the bills, and has his wifes "friend" in his bed...he is sleeping in another room.....

now 2nd date for husband (1 month later same girl) she(wife) calls him and tells him he is not to come home....she had dropped off 2 trash bags of clothes at a mutual friends lawn. he knows no matter how he tryes, she will never be happy, and gives up.....why does she deserve half? she did nothing, no work outside, no work inside.....geez im so..PO'D...they were married 10 yrs, she had 1 job, in the beginning for a short time.

she drained the acct. pawned all his things (man things, tools etc) he had to buy back the camcorder...that still had his childs 1st birthday tape in it.....whew! i think im done, any advise

I don't know about OK, but in TX, you can ask for a disproportionate share of the assets based on the other party disporportionately squandering income and assets. It's also reasonable to insist on half of the income she got from selling your stuff.

A rule of thumb of divorce is: money follows kids. If you want a judge to award you a disproportionate share of the assets, get primary custody.

i filed contempt on her for selling all my "stuff"...they said it "will be taken care of at mediation"....(10 yrs of marriage) she agreed to give me a colman stove, a lantern, and a smoker....i dint agree so it will go to trial....contempt was not delt with....trial wont be set for 3 months (lawyer told me) all i have is the clothes she left in trash bags.... this has been going on for 1 1/2 yrs...i want a divorce....if she wanted a divorce...why is it taking so long?

i know there are other cases involving her other child. for oh whats the word....unfit parent..now, i have gotten a house with enough rooms, i was the primary caregiver...should it be so difficult? geez, i am at my witts end. as to waiting, doing things right, and why isnt her disability taken into acct?

i guess what i am saying, is men always get a bad rap...and the money hungry women are happy...

"if she wanted a divorce...why is it taking so long?"
Don't tell me, let me guess: she's getting child support and spousal support.

temporary order set...yes she is getting child support. for the moment. that however is not the issue. i make enough to support my child either way...

the issue is, that she has "her episodes" i fear it is unsafe for my child...episodes involve her unable to drive and she sleeps all day because she abuses prescription medication...and doesnt know where my child is, or whos house she is at. IF there is an emergancy....how will she drive my child to the hosp? blacking out while driving is unsafe....some of this information comes from my child in suttle questions...and 5 men and 1 woman living in the house in 1 1/2 yrs...these are the issues.

"for the moment. that however is not the issue"
Wrong. You wanted to know why it was taking so long. One reason is just to make you mad, and another is wanting to avoid having to make real decisions, but the biggest reason is that she fears losing her gravy train. As with anything in life, if you want to know why, follow the money. If she thought she were going to get more money by finalizing the divorce, it long since would have been over.

dont my fear and concerns matter? WHEN i go over there to pick up my child...i do not want to make it worse for me, i do understand what u said b4, about the civil matter, i just dont want it to look bad for me or make things worse for me...so do i call the police and refuse to give her the child....i left a message for DHS...it takes the 2 days to follow up i've heard...whats 2 days...she would be "sober" by then...i understand..about the "gravey train"...another thing is...my lawyer "needs to hire a PI" said it will take 2 or 3 months. what for she isnt poppin pills outside... everything is in the house...geez, i am so frustrated...MIND YOU THIS ALL TOOK PLACE AT 9:30 PM

"so do i call the police and refuse to give her the child"
No, you do not call the police. Leave that to her. (What are you calling them FOR? To tell them that you're keeping the kid? To report her for being intoxicated in her own home? To tell them that you're an idiot who forked over a kid to a woman WHO TOLD YOU that she'd taken pills that made her unable to function properly?) Keep the kid, and document your reason (you are keeping a log, aren't you?). If it's legal in your state, and you expect her to be "loopy" then bring the camcorder with you when you go to drop the kid off and make sure it's on. Telling the judge that she looked intoxicated isn't nearly as effective as being able to play the tape. Having the tape also gives you enormous leverage in mediation/negotiation.

What would the PI do, exactly?

I AM THE SAME PERSON WHO POSTED

a desision must be made...but which is right?

"a desision must be made"
About what, exactly?