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Going through a divorce. The soon to be ex hired John Hartmann from Pellitari, Rapstien and Altman. He is a convicted ethics niolator for threating and intimiating a judge. He is a real scum bag and has drawn out the divorce.

I got a set a motions again my wife but they don't seem to be worth much as she is violating them. We listed the house and she is to fully cooperate with its sale but she will not allow a lock box or open houses. Also her realtor (I allowed her to use her choice), says we need to lower rthe price, her and her attorny refuse. This is not fully cooperating.

I have a boat and equipment. They hired a scum bag that took 60days to do the eval. But the judge ordered that after inventoried and appriased I could use them. Well she has refused that also.

I have a firearms collection. I asked for 3 names. I coose one now they won't allow the use of that one.

I think my attorney is just a wimp but a good friend who is an attorney said he is real good. But I have spent $24K+ and have really nothing to show for it.

I pay the ex like 60% of my take home pay for the mortgages and other support. She works but is underemplyed.

Bankrupcty seems almost certain now. Any one have advice? Should I stop paying mortgages and giving her support and make her file moptions to complel? The only problem is I have a child (4yo). So I'll get slamed I'm sure.

I'm thinking of leaving the US just to screw her for being a bitch and stupid.

Any way to get my 401K out of the country?

I can barly work (software engineeer) or concentrate any more I should be on disability has the anger and just plain unable to think about any thing else is so overwelming.

I see a therapist, no help. Take soem drugs, no help. I have no hope and seemingly no future I just want to give and and craw in a hole and die (as long as the bitch does not get my life insurance).

Thanks,

Capt Frank

Capt Frank, I was in your boat (emotionally) for almost two years until my divorce was final. I think you need to get on your attorney if he is still under retainer and tell him exactly what you expect from him or get someone new. Sometimes we don't want to rock the boat with the only people we have left in our lives during and after a divorce. You need to and I say this with love, knock this sh** off, get up, get mad and fight for yourself and your relationship with your child. You deserve to have a life as much as your ex does and if you shut down and give up it will be very hard to get back up again and you will in the long run resent the life you have and ultimately damage the relationship with your child because of anger and resentment for your ex. You obviously can't leave the country and I'm sure you, I hope you didn't really mean that, you DO have a young child that needs her/his father. But if you do decide to cash out and leave the country, again I say this with love you deserve everything you will get out of it which is alone and lonely, broke and labeled an abandoner and I know you don't want that for yourself. You can do it, get strong, get out of bed, look for the people that love you for support and ask for help. Enlist each person you know to research items that you are not getting results on from your attorney, such as the fishing equipment you can get a civil stand by if the equipment is in the house you own with your wife unless you are restrained from going there or are restrained from taking the items. You can do this ask for help.