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My husband and I are planning to move to Charlotte, NC in 3 weeks. My ex and I were trying to not go through the courts to work out the visitation. Yah, a mistake. Anyway, now he is saying he wants her to live with him for a year and me for a year. I have had custody of her since she was born. We divorced when she was 1. He is on house arrest for 6 months and probation for 3 years. Second offense for theft. May not make a difference in anything just thought I should say it. What do I do now?

You should have gone to court before deciding to move. I don't think splitting year to year is a good idea at all. She is only 9 and it's crazy for a kid to be shuffled between two states and two schools. It's one thing for a child to rotate homes biweekly as long as school, friends, community in general doesn't change. I know a few children that need to switch homes biweekly (friends of my own kids) and they tell me they "hate" it, but they have no choice. His criminal record and the fact that you have been the custodial parent will certainly be to your benefit. The court may allow this move, but will likely grant him summers, school break weeks, other agreed upon weekends and either split transportation or make you responsible for all transportation.

How often does he see the kids (or do you have to bring them becaue of house arrest), is there a child support order in place, and is it paid up to date?

Sorry we moved to Nashville in with my husbands BIL so we can save money to move in June. He is now saying if I try to move he'll sue for custody.
To answer the question on current visitation he is supposed to get her every other weekend and the usual thanksgiving, etc. He went through the months of November up to christmas without seeing her. He was supposed to pick her up for thanksgiving but his grandmother showed up. When my daughter got back she said she never saw him. I had to get the child support enforced again so he now has another warrant for him.