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I filed for a divorce 11 days ago but cannot get her served because I have no clue where she is. She left 16 days ago when she was suppose to go into rehad for meth addiction and have not seen her since. I know she is is not in rehab because she has called twice and drained the bank accounts. She spent 25 days in jail about a year and a half ago for having meth, pot and about $10,000 cash on her (from credit card) which the state kept. My daughter was with her when she got arrested. I got our only car back the other day after some guy tried to cash a check he said I wrote and got busted (he had 2 warrents on him), he was driving my car and said my wife was his girlfriend. I have been told many different things but I believe my lawyer told me we have to wait 40 days then put something in the paper for 10 days then it's over, is this right? I have 2 kids ages 12 and 16 that are currently living with me.

Just gets worse every day it seems. Today I got a call from a little corner store that said she had wrote close to $1000.00 in hot checks off a frozen account and they are going to the DA to get their money. I told them all I was an authorized signer only on the account and the bank told me I would not be held liable, they said the DA will come after me because she is still my wife. She signed the checks. Also I found out she is having an affair with the guy that wrote the hot checks(First post). Will it ever end?

Well at least now you have a lead on where she might be found; the new BF and the store's neighborhood. Contact the DA and let them know your situation, so that if and when they arrest her, you will be notified and can then get her served and proceed with your divorce. These recent occurances should also benefit you in your divorce proceedings as you can now seek sole custody of your kids and court supervised visitation (if any). Get copies of all police reports.

Still can't find her. My lawyer filed the paper for the divorce by publication the other day. She calls alot, but can't track down a cell phone. Have talked to the DA and bank got paperwork screwed up and there are still no charges against her. She says she almost has the money to pay the DA and then is going to go for a third credit card so she can fight me tooth and nail. She also broke in a over a week ago and took my kids Playstation2 and other electronic stuff then pawned them. Since then I have got an alarm and had the locks changed. She also says the other guy was the drug dealer and he took over $5000.00 from her. She also said he said he was gonna hurt the kids if she does not do what he wants. Told her to go to the cops but she won't. What a mess

Well I can find her now. She called from jail last night and they arrested her for "poss. of CDS meth w/intent to distribute" "poss. of pot" "poss. of paraphernalia". She wanted me to get her out but she has a $26,000.00 bond which is $2600.00 with a bondsman but I am afraid she would run and then I would owe it all. What a mess

>>>"She wanted me to get her out but she has a $26,000.00 bond which is $2600.00 with a bondsman but I am afraid she would run and then I would owe it all."<<< You're kidding right!?!? You should NOT seriously even consider giving her a dime for a piece of gum? Let her rot!!! She got herself into that situation, let her get herself out. With her locked up now you have no worries! Its a benefit to you and your kids. DO NOT even think of taking the kids to see her in jail, thats no place for children. UNLESS the court orders it, keep them away.

That's perfect. Now, you know where she can be served, but I would get an emergency hearing for temporary custody.

I agree with Astro. Get the temp order now so when she gets out and comes to pick up your kids you are legally obligated to give them up. Protect your children.

This morning she signed over her stuff the jail had to me and I went and got it. I am not going to get her out, I couldn't even if I wanted too. I called some guy who she said has all her jewlery and $2000.00 cash and he said he would meet up with me and give it to me. I think I am going to tell him to drop it off at my lawyers if he even calls back. These people scare the crap out of me. I am guessing they impounded the car she was driving and it was a rental. She said that everything is in it, my kids stuff that was stolen and my stuff also and there is no telling what else. I have no idea how to try to get this stuff back. I will call the rental company Tuesday and see what they say. Will call my lawyer first thing in the morning and let them know what has happened and see where to go from here.

You made the right decisions to not try to bail her out and not to meet this person. I have a feeling the call to the impound will reveal nothing is in the rental. The items were pawned or sold and that's it. You can always replace things little by little. Just call your lawyer, go to family court "today" and get that permanent custody order and take care of children. Forget about her. As long as she knows she can manipulate you, she will use you to her advantage. I wish you luck, having been there and done that.

Well I got the divorce granted on August 30th. She was in jail all summer long and got out 2 weeks before the 90 days was up since she was served so I could go down to the courthouse and get it granted. We did the divorce by publication, served her in jail and my lawyer went down to the jail to see if she would sign a waiver like she said she would(she didn't). Now after a week she has filed a motion for "MOTION TO VACATE OR IN THE ALTERNATIVE MOTION FOR NEW TRIAL". My lawyer says we should not have a problem but it just scares the crap out of me to think this could start all over again.

BTW
I got sole custody of the kids and she has supervised visitaion.

Congratulations on obtaining sole custody and the divorce. She was both served and visited at the jail by your lawyer. I'm not certain what she intends to use as her reason to ask for the divorce to be vacated, but she definitely cannot say she was in the dark about all this.

Your lawyer is probably correct. Keeping fingers crossed for you and yours. Keep us posted.

On her Motion she had 3 points.
1. That I filed the petition after she was in jail. I filed on April 11th, she went to jail on May 28th.
2 The "Divorce By Publication is a fraud" because I knew where she was when I filed it. My lawyer filed it on May 24th and she went to jail on May 28th.
3. That I knew where she was because I had lunch with her the day before the divorce was granted. To me this is here say but I did go to lunch with her the day after the divorce was granted.

Seems like to me that her lawyer just took her money because from what it looks like she has no chance and he should have known it if he would have done his homework. All 3 points are not true and if that is what the judge is going to look at then.....