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Do you know of anyone in Madison/Ridgeland area that would be willing to act as a mediator?

I will make a some calls to find you the best one I can.

Ok. I've been email with John Robert White Law firm on Highland Colony in Ridgeland, Ms.

I just can't keep paying $500 just to talk with someone. And someone told me that the lawyer I talked to before that charged me that sounded like he was just in it for the $. I have got to find someone who will be in it for ME and not just the $. I just want to get my orig. decree amended to what I think it should be and then send it to x and he can send back with his changes. I want someone who will just oversee something like that. I don't want to go to court however I'm sure my x would like that all he wants to do is try and get the kids. It's all about $ to him. He just doesn't want to py cs period!

I sent you a PM.

My 13 yr old daughter is wanting to go live with her father who is 3 hours away. She swears it's not because of any certain thing. She says she just wants to go. I have seen tex messages from kids where her father lives saying things to her like..."if you move here the guys will be all over you." I have seen one from the x's wife's son saying..."let's not tell our parent's yet". There's one saying something about a friend of the step brothers moving next door to her dad. I have told her that she is not moving. I also have tried to be very open and have told her that whatever is going on she can tell me. I won't be mad I just want her to be able to talk to me if she needs to talk. But I keep getting the same answer.."it's nothing...I just want to go". I know at this age they all think their school is stupid and they might all go through wanting something different. I know some of her really close friends are going to a different school next year. I asked if going to 9th grade is worrying her. I have thought of everything it might be. She denies all!

My question finally...Can she choose where she wants to live? Will a judge grant her this. Her father tells my husband that he will take me to court if I don't let her.

PLEASE HELP! I CAN'T JUST LET MY CHILD GO!!!

No you can't just let her go, simply because she wants to. I reread some of your earlier posts and it's obvious that both himself and his wife had already attempted to get you to agree to reduce his child support. He chose to marry and move 3 hours to her home? And this daughter is the one you mentioned that has ADHD?

If so, and it comes to it, I think the court will understand this is not a good idea for she under the circumstances and will not give weight to her desire to go live with her father. You're even more right to be alert and concerned at the types of messages she is receiving. A girl, 13, is looking to be popular. Put a child like that with the wrong people and hell will just begin. We just had an email alert in our area for a 13 year girl that went missing this past Monday. She was finally found, she'd run away to an 18 yr old "boyfriend's" who kept her hidden.

Also, what is the family situation there as far as the steps go? You mentioned stepbrother. Are there more steps? Are they all boys?

No...this is not the child with ADHD.

Please see my 1/12/08 post! Can ANYONE give me advice or tell me what can be done

What's going on at this point?

Your daughter cannot just simply decide where she wants to live. You don't have to say yes. She may or may not be have her wishes considered. Your ex needs much more reason to try to change custody, not simply, "my daughter wants to live with me." If the court sees no other valid reason for her to be there, except she just feels like a change, it won't fly.

There is nothing you can do at this point. You can't stop your ex from filing if he wants to try, but if he hasn't don't worry yourself over it.