I was married for 7.5 years when my husband told me he wanted a divorce. I was shocked. We had just returned from Thanksgiving at his parent's house. I had no clue the only thing to happen was in the past four months his old girl friend contacted him about her recent divorce. I tried to get him to go to counseling or even just a seperation but he refused. I got myself a lawyer and began to fight him for custody of my children. He kept playing mind games with me and our three young daughters. I had him served a restraining order. after 2 months he decided to go to counseling and rekindle our marriage. We went to marriage counseling together about 3 times we were alos supposed to met our counselor sperately each week. I went for about 4 monthe by self and never went to seperate counseling. I thought we were making progress in our marriage it was still rocky but I thought we were working on it. Then in November, almost one year later I found a two week old love written by him to his ex girlfriend. I also found a journel page of his stating that he had made out with an eighteen year old in July while I was taking our girls to my parents then his. I just stopped going to counseling at that time in July. I went to talk to my attorney and then confronted my husband. He denied everything even though it was in his own writting. I decided to let it go for now. Then in January I wrote him a letter stating my feelings about the exgirl friend and the 18 yr. I asked him ti decide if he was in this marriage because he loved and wnated to be with me or not. When I asked in February what he wanted he stated that he was still replying to my letter 3 weeks!! I had enough I feel that my girls and I deserve to be treated better than that. So on February 10, 2006, I filed for divorce.
I spent the weekend in motel because I was scared of how he would react. My dauhgters and I returned the house on Monday. On Valentines Day for the first time in our marriage my husband left flowers, candy, and a card at work for me. I was confused!!! We lived together as we waited for our first court hearing March 23, 2006. But on the night of March 19, 2006, we had a disagreement about money this that were being done by our lawyers. My husband went out the back door to cool off. About forty-five minutes later the sheriffs deputies came in the front door looking for me. Apparently my husband had called the cops claiming I attacked him with a hanger. I have never had a speeding ticket or parking ticket but because he had wounds they had to arrest me and I spent the night in jail. Thank GOD my girls were asleep up stairs. I was out on bond the next day but was not to contact my husband or children. That was extremely hard I cared for my daughter for their entire life and not be there and not explain the them why. I got permission to visit them at school and daycare. It was during these visits that I found out the person my husband had watching my children while he worked overnight. This person had her children removed from her home 3 times. so I found my legal grounds and took my girls to a friends house. I let my children go to my in-laws for spring break but they did return them as agreed upon by the lawyers. I had to fight for three weeks until the charges were dropped against me and false reporting charges were filed against him. At this time I was granted custody of my daughters and possesion of house until property division during the divorce. I have been back to court 5 toimes and still haven't been in front of the divorce judge. I have been pulled over twice because SOMEONE called the police about my children being unbuckled on a road I wasn't even driving on. I also had children's services out to my house claiming I made children take care of themselves and have ten inches of dirty luadry and garbage. I still have my children the children services took one look at the house and said they didn't have ANY concerns. I will go to court in June. But my husband has gotten into my house. I now have to defend why I changed the locks on my house. If anyone has advice please let me know, I feel very much alone but I know I'm not
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Christie